Flip the Script: Confronting Ageism in Our Language During Older Americans Month

Every May, we celebrate Older Americans Month — a time to honor the contributions of older

adults and shine a light on the issues they face. This year’s theme, “Flip the Script,” invites us to challenge the stereotypes and outdated narratives that often define aging in our culture.

One of the most pervasive and subtle forms of ageism lies in our everyday language — words and phrases so common we hardly notice their impact.

Let’s take a closer look at how ageism shows up in the way we talk — and how we can flip the

script to foster respect, dignity, and inclusion.

“You look great… for your age!”

What seems like a compliment is actually a backhanded remark that implies people of a certain age aren’t expected to look “great.” It reinforces the notion that aging is something to overcome or hide.

Flip the script:

“You look great!”

Drop the qualifier. Celebrate the person, not their age.

“Having a senior moment”

This phrase is often used to describe forgetfulness — but using age as the punchline of a joke

about memory lapses reinforces a harmful stereotype that older adults are mentally declining or incompetent.

Flip the script:

“I’m having a forgetful moment.”

Forgetfulness is human — not exclusive to any age group.

“They’re too old to change” or “You can’t teach an old dog new tricks”

These sayings reflect a belief that older adults are rigid, resistant to learning, or incapable of

growth. The truth? People of all ages continue to learn, adapt, and grow.

Flip the script:

“People can learn at any stage of life.”

Celebrate lifelong learning and adaptability.

“She’s still working at her age?”

There’s an underlying assumption here that work is only for the young, and that older adults

should “step aside.” In reality, many older adults find meaning, connection, and financial

security through work.

Flip the script:

“She brings so much experience and value to her work.”

Recognize the contributions and wisdom that come with age.

“He’s 70 but still drives!”

Why is this surprising? It reflects a low expectation for independence among older adults, even though the majority of them live independently and actively engage in their communities.

Flip the script:

“He enjoys his independence and stays active.”

Focus on ability, not age.

Why Language Matters

Ageist language isn’t just about hurt feelings — it shapes how society views older adults and

how older adults view themselves. Over time, these small slights can lead to real consequences: discrimination in the workplace, reduced access to healthcare, and internalized ageism that impacts mental health and self-esteem.

Language can uplift or diminish. This month, let’s make a conscious effort to speak with

respect, celebrate longevity, and promote dignity at every age.

Small Shifts, Big Impact

Flipping the script isn’t about being overly cautious or policing every word — it’s about being

intentional. When we change the way we talk about aging, we change the way we think about

aging. We open the door to more inclusive, accurate, and respectful narratives that honor the

richness of growing older.

Flip the Script: Challenge for the Month

✔️ Notice and rephrase ageist language

✔️ Share this message with a friend or colleague

✔️ Start a conversation about age inclusion

As we celebrate Older Americans Month, let’s all take a moment to reflect on our words —and

choose ones that uplift, empower, and include.

Let’s flip the script together.